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Need a new Insurance Company?

The joy we had when we brought in the arrival of our first child, was nothing in comparison to the joy we felt beginning our relationship with the insurance company. We hoped that the last thing we would have to worry about when caring for our premature baby was how to pay his medical bills. The following is all the hilarious and unbelievable situations that have arisen from the insurance company.

Firstly, we received a bill shortly after this whole experience for the transportation of our son from the hospital he was born in, to the children’s hospital where he was being cared for. This bill was near $1,000, and the note on the bill said our insurance had denied coverage because it was not a medical necessity. So, I guess it really was our fault that we didn’t try to plug the incubator into the cigarette lighter of our car first. Since, it has been appealed and covered.

It is sad really because we are only college students paying for the campus health insurance, which is pretty low budget, and they expect all our health needs to first be seen at the on campus health center. When my son was born, we happened to be in a different state, so going to their health center was a little out of the question. Since we cannot afford to take our son on a plane to their on campus health center every time he needs to go to the doctor, which was quite a bit, we are being held responsible for these kinds of bills.

Especially in the topic of immunizations, we needed to get them at the pediatrician’s office. Then we were told they weren’t covered because they weren’t given at the on campus health center. So, now we have moved back on campus and I took my son to the school health center for him to get updated on his shots. Would you believe that they don’t even give immunizations at the health center?

So, I asked the insurance company if they ever actually communicate with the health center before they write their policies. So you understand that we are paying out of our pocket because we didn’t go where the insurance wanted us to go get his shots, when they don’t even give shots anyway. Are you appreciating the hilarity of this ignorance? I hope so.

The mother of all our bills came from the doctors at the NICU that daily visited my son in the hospital. Let me first clarify that when my son was first admitted into the hospital, we called the insurance to make sure that this was ok and everything would be taken cared for. Regardless of their reassurance, the bill came stating our insurance’s lack of coverage.

Apparently they cover the hospital, but not the doctors that work there. Because it is an option to go to the hospital without seeing a doctor. That totally defeats the purpose of going to the hospital doesn’t it? So, I’m at a loss to how this policy makes any sense.

It is also being appealed on account of the policy making no sense, along with the complete lack of control we had in the doctors seeing our son anyway. My son went to the hospital while I was still in the hospital myself. Then they put a safety device on his ankle that prohibits anyone from taking him even as far as the elevator without being arrested. Plus who would say, please don’t take care of my three pound son that can’t even breath by himself because there’s a chance the insurance won’t cover it.

I envision a man in the dark corners of the insurance building who has never set foot in a doctor’s office, that is hired for his ability to write complex and contradicting policies. In fact, the employees themselves must devoid of any medical need or else they would be blatantly aware of their flaws themselves. I’m not surprised that so many candidates used it as a topic of debate in our last election.

Luckily, the insurance company has people in it that also see the problems in the system and are trying to help. The key is to find those people and ask if they will personally help you in all your claims for the future. Get their personal extensions and emails so that you don’t have to deal with the phone center customer service know-nothings that will just hand you the standardized statements of policy. I have found this to be useful.

Their is always an appeals process to anything going on that you know is incorrect, so don’t be intimidated to use your rights as their client. Before you pay a bill, contact the insurance so they can check the system and insure they have done all they are required to do for that particular claim. Then, check again with the doctor’s bills to keep them from charging you over the agreed rate they made with your insurance, without you knowing it. Make note of things the insurance company tells you so that if it comes to a misunderstanding, you have a clear recollection of what you were told.

What it comes down to is that these people are trying to do their job, and we can help them know how to improve in it. It can’t be helped dealing with this in order for us to have healthcare, so all you can do is take a deep breath when you are frustrated. The best way to avoid these problems, just don’t get sick, and you’ll be fine.

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Tips for Parents to Get Baby to Sleep through the Night

Most new parents have the same common woe. When will baby finally start sleeping more than two hours at a time, so you can get some well-needed sleep yourself?

With all the parenting books, internet sites and other parents you can turn to, sleep in unfortunately the least predictable milestone in your baby’s life. Other milestones are pretty standard, as in teething ages, the ability to start on solid foods and when you can anticipate her first smile. However, nobody seems able to give you a concrete idea of when you might be blessed with more than a couple of hours sleep at a time.

Developing healthy sleep habits is very important and should be started from baby’s birth. After the initial period of getting to know your baby and watching her signals, you will be able to recognize and know when she needs to be put to bed.

At about two weeks you can help your baby distinguish between night and day, and can begin to develop their sleeping schedule. Play or sing with your normal tone of voice during the daytime hours when baby is awake and alert. Don’t worry about noises during nap time; your infant will grow accustomed to the fact that during the day there are noises around him.

It’s time to change things around when your baby wakes up during the night. Dim the lights and reduce noise as much as possible to avoid stimulation. This will help teach baby that night time is a quiet time. When he wakes up to feed, try not to talk very much, and remember not to be playful. The realization will occur soon enough that day time is play time, and nights are for sleeping.

Bedtime routines also play an important part in getting a bit more sleep. Try leaving bath time until right before bed. Warm water is very soothing to your baby, as is the whole bathing process. If you happen to notice that your baby gets too excited during bath time, this defeats the purpose of it being a calming experience. It might be best to move this to a morning ritual instead. Try to establish a new bedtime routine through soothing music or family bed-time stories.

Even when you are trying to establish a routine, when it comes to calming themselves many babies have challenges falling asleep. There are many opinions on the easiest way to help baby overcome these challenges.

One technique that many parents have found helpful is the crying down method that can be used when when baby reaches about 6 weeks old. If you’re sure your baby is not hungry and any other potential issues are taken care of, you might let your baby cry a little until she calms down. At first start with 5-10 minutes, but expect that if your baby has become over-tired or over-excited this could take as long as 20 minutes. If you are having trouble ignoring the crying try and wait 5-10 minutes before returning to baby’s room. Repeat this procedure until the baby can fall asleep on her own without the crying.

Some people struggle with the idea of letting such a small baby crying itself to sleep. If you are one of them, there are other alternatives you may find easier to deal with. An example of this would be when a parent decides to pay closer attention to the actions of the little one and cluing in on the signs that it’s time for bed. This method however could mean varying bedtimes each night. Some other parents may opt to lie close to baby, cooing and gently touching them to provide them with some comfort. Little by little, the parent starts moving further away from the infant, thus providing less interaction. This process gently weans your little one from needing you that close to them in order to fall asleep.

No matter what way you choose to approach it, babies are precious to their parents, but sleep is needed to properly care for them. With some handy tips and a lot of patience a pattern will eventually allow everyone to get a good night’s sleep.

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When A Win Doesn’t Feel Like A Win

It is a growing trend to start our children in organized sports at a very young age. Mom, dad, I am sure you proudly recall watching your first born playing soccer at the age of 5. The rules are simple. Everyone plays and nobody loses. Funny how the game always seems to end in a tie. Your little guy chases the ball mixed into a cluster with the other children. It’s wild kicking in that cloud of kids. Thank goodness for shin guards! Amazingly, by the end of the season, they have learned some basic positions and are no longer on top of eachother. It is in that moment that you realized that your little one has some real athletic talent.

His atletic career continues to grow. He dabbles in soccer, basketball, baseball and football until he finds the one sport he really excels in. It is then that you see his passion for the game and his true desire to win. You pay for the private instuction and make the commitment to practice and play 5 days a week or more. That hard work pay off as he and his teammates win league games, tournments and move on to thier sports version of the “World Series”.

As a family, you commit to raise the money to make your child’s “World Series” deam a reality. You sell hotdogs, wash cars, and seek sponsors. Your friends , family and community rally around you, contributing to the cause. You have raised the funds…the team will have their opportunity to play.

You are surprised by the athletic talent of the opposing teams as you arrive at your child’s tournment. It is then that you find out that this tournment allows teams to pick up “stud” players. To stay competitive with the other teams your coach feels he must do the same. The result… Your child and many of his teammates sit on the bench.

What message do we send to our children? “Thanks for all your hardwork this season, but have a seat. You’re not good enough to play these kids”. Isn’t it your child and his teammates played hard to make it to this level? Thats’s when a win doesn’t feel like a win.

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